University of Virginia professor Brad Wilcox points out that marriage is under attack from the Left and the Right — from those who call it a patriarchal tool of oppression and from those who say it’s a sucker’s deal for men.
Wilcox’s new book, Get Married, makes the case that marriage is good not only for kids, but for adults. He (along with liberal economist Melissa Kearney before him) is arguing against many liberals, who say there’s no evidence more marriage would be good. This includes some feminists, who argue that marriage is inherently oppressive.
“Historically, it has been a fundamental site of women’s oppression,” argues political philosopher Clare Chambers. “Currently, it is associated with the gendered division of labour. … Symbolically, the white wedding asserts that women’s ultimate dream and purpose is to marry, and remains replete with sexist imagery.”
This is an extremist view probably present only in academia, but I spent years talking to young people for my book on falling birthrates and encountered a more modest and sadder, but overlapping argument against marriage and family formation.
A passage from Family Unfriendly:
The worldview here is that you simply cannot trust other people, and that you must therefore build a zero-trust life. Modernity seems to make that possible: make everything transactional and mediate everything through technology.
That sad, atomized, zero-mindset is also behind the red-pilled misogyny into which influencers like the one below have tapped:
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She preaches to men that they simply cannot trust women and uses the risk of divorce as a reason from ever getting married.
It’s the same zero-trust, atomized, alienated, misanthropic mindset that underlies some strains of feminism. What it rejects is love, commitment, and meaning in life. The result: dying sad and alone.